For every heart that still carries someone.
You’re welcome here—exactly as you are, on the days you can talk and the days you can’t.
What is this?
The Grief Heart Project is a gentle way to make grief visible and invite real conversation about the people we love who have died. The symbol is a broken heart made of uneven pieces, with a deep-blue shard for the space loss leaves. From the crack, flowers grow—because when we share their stories, love and beauty still bloom.
This page is for you, if you’re grieving. Take what helps. Leave the rest. Come back anytime.
How this page can help
- Language when words are hard. Pocket-sized scripts you can copy/paste.
- Ways to remember. Simple rituals, prompts, and creative ideas.
- Boundaries & consent. Kind ways to say “not today.”
- Community. Places to share if/when you want.
Tips at a Glance (mobile-friendly)
- Say your person’s name when you want—silence is also okay.
- Short scripts to keep handy: “Not today,” “I can share a little,”
- Micro-anchors: water, three slow breaths, feet on the floor, one minute outside.
- Ask for care: “Can you check in later or send me a memory?”
- Keep one tiny ritual: candle, song, walk, or note. 🌿
- Use the heart when/if it feels right. 💙
If you want to use the heart
Wear it / share it / post it as an invitation—only if it feels right. 💙
Profile & posts: Use #WearYourHeartWednesday to share your person on any Wednesday (or any day). Post a heart, a name, a memory, a photo, a song—whatever feels safe.
What the heart means (short):
“I’m carrying someone I love. You can ask me about them—if I have words today.”
What to say to someone who notices:
“Thanks for asking. Their name is _____. One thing I loved about them is _____.”
or
“I appreciate you noticing. I don’t have words today, but the heart means I’m remembering.”
Quick links: Download a Heart • Share on #WearYourHeartWednesday • Join the Grief Heart Friends Group • Get a Pin/Sticker
Talking about your person
Sometimes we want to share and get stuck on where to start. Try one:
- A tiny everyday thing they loved (snack, song, show, road, tree, joke).
- A scent, sound, or place that brings them near.
- Something they taught you (a recipe, a shortcut, a kindness).
- The last text or note you keep rereading.
- A way they show up now (a phrase you still say, a habit you keep, a ritual you created).
Starter scripts
- “Their name is _____. I miss the way _____.”
- “Today I’m remembering _____ because _____.”
- “Would you mind asking me about _____? It helps to tell it.”
On the hard days
- Breathe & sip: Glass of water, three slow breaths, feet on the floor.
- Micro-move: Open a window, step outside, notice one color, one sound, one texture.
- Ask for anchor-care: Text to send: “Hey, today is heavy. Could you check in later—or send me a memory of ____?”
- Make a small altar: A photo, a leaf, a shell, a ticket stub, a note. Light a candle (real or battery).
- Permission given: Rest counts. Crying counts. Laughing counts. Doing nothing counts.
Boundaries that protect your heart
You don’t owe anyone your story. Try these gentle closers:
“I appreciate your care. Can we try again another day?”
“Thank you for asking. I don’t have words today.”
“I’m okay to share a little, not the details.”
“Could we talk about them for five minutes, then switch?”
Gentle rituals & remembering 🌿
Choose what fits your values and energy. (We avoid balloon releases because they harm wildlife and the ʻāina.)
- Light a candle; say their name out loud.
- Play their song while you make coffee.
- Cook their favorite meal and set a place.
- Take their walk and notice three things they’d have loved.
- Press a flower in a book; write the date and a line about them.
- Plant something native or donate to a cause they cared about.
- Keep a “nearby box” with small mementos you can hold.
- Create a yearly “Their Day”—simple, repeatable, entirely yours.
If you want to invite support
Copy/paste messages you can send to family & friends:
- “I’m missing _____ today. If you have a favorite memory or photo, I’d love to hear or see it.”
- “I could use company for a walk or coffee. No need to fix—just be with me.”
- “Checking in means a lot. If you don’t know what to say, their name is perfect.”
- “Today is a ‘low words’ day. A heart emoji or ‘I’m here’ helps.”
Resources
Community, if you want it
Grief Heart Friends (Facebook group): A shared space for people grieving and supporters to learn how to show up for each other. Share your person, ask for what you need, or just read along.
#WearYourHeartWednesday: Post a heart and a memory. Say their name where names belong—out loud and in public.
Quick links: Join the Group • How to Participate • Post a Wednesday Heart
Downloads (free)
Conversation Cards: gentle prompts about your person
Phone Lock Screen Heart: a private way to carry them
“Tell Me About Them” Mini Cards: hand to friends as an invite
Journal Pages: for dates, memories, and tiny everyday things
Social Templates: ready-to-post #WearYourHeartWednesday frames
Quick links: Download Starter Kit • Print Mini Cards • Journal Pages
FAQs
Is this only for recent loss?
No. Whether it’s last month or decades ago, love doesn’t expire—and neither does your right to speak their name.
Does the Grief Heart replace therapy or support groups?
No. This is a community-led invitation, not medical care. If you need clinical support, please seek it.
Is this only for certain kinds of loss?
Our focus is grief after a death. Any person, any cause, any timeline. Share as much or as little as you wish.
Safety note
If you’re in immediate danger or feel unable to stay safe, please contact local emergency services. You deserve support.
The Grief Heart Project is a community invitation to make grief visible and to remember out loud. You choose the pace. You choose the words. We’ll be here either way.
Explore: About the Symbol • Tips for Supporters • #WearYourHeartWednesday • Free Downloads • Join the Group
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