Here you will find logistics and stories about the Grief Heart Project and personal reflections about my journey with grief since losing my Daughter Jessica F17 in a car accident.
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“In order to be remembered… You have to leave.”
I shared this 11 years ago of Facebook. It’s a quote from Grey’s Anatomy “I wanted to break new ground. I wanted to leave a legacy. I wanted my life, my brain, my existence to mean something. The thing I…
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A Constant Background of Wrongness
It has been well over a year. I can say that sentence out loud now. I can write it. I can count the months on a calendar and acknowledge that seasons have turned, birthdays and holidays have come and gone.…
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A Different Kind of Loss
My Aunt Ann died this week. She was my mom’s sister and my godmother, and she has been in the background of my whole life, a part of the family story. She had been living in a nursing home for…
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I Currently Live for Morning
I wrote this last year, and so much of it is still true. What has shifted is the hunt for newness. The memories still come, but they do not always surprise me the way they used to. Still, I come…
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Will you miss a diamond in the rough, slight an angel, or crush a flower before it blooms?
I found this old blog post recently. When I wrote it in 2011, I was thinking about humility and hidden potential and the beauty of the underdog story. I had no idea how much those thoughts would return to me…
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What if being here is enough?
Sometimes when I think about Jess, I feel the ache of all the things the world never got to see in her: the ideas she was growing, the future she was already leaning toward. I look at her photographs and…
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Always Yes
Sometimes I wonder if love always knew what it was asking of me Long before I held her Long before I knew her love of snails or the sound of her laugh Maybe the universe already understood the length of…
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Silliness Challenge
Today, I caught myself saying: “I just love the silliness.” It happened while watching a clip of Carol Burnett being accused of “cheating on Wordle” because she’s managed to get it in one guess, a staggering seven times! The interview…
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The Things With Nowhere to Go
Note: This piece grew out of the conversation that followed when I first shared my thoughts about the things we keep after loss. So many people wrote with their own stories, and each one carried the same quiet ache —…
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Teach Your Community How to Remember With You
People often want to reach out when someone dies. They really do. But most of the time, they don’t know how. They don’t know what’s safe to say or if it will make you cry or if you’d rather not…
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